Why Did They Stay?

Voices Leading Change:

Survivors at the Heart of Prevention Apr 11, 2022

Survivors blame themselves for the abuse (called victim self-blaming). They of course are aided in this by the primary aggressor who is constantly blaming them. Therefore, they for a long time stay in the relationship and try to change their own behavior to end the abuse. When and if they retroactively reframe the experience as abusive, they deserve validation, even if they stayed "when something was wrong. "Victim Blaming in Abuse and Relationships."

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References:

1. When Victims Blame Themselves for Domestic Violence https://www.abuseandrelationships.org

2. Four Reasons Why Victims Blame Themselves for Domestic Violence https://www.vanessaprietolaw.com

3. Victims Blaming in Abusive Relationships

https://www.abuseandrelationships.org.