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Tips on How to Help Prevent Rape And Date Rape
Living in the world today will automatically send chills up your spine, especially when tuned in to the local and world news. Reports of various blood-curdling acts of violence flood the local and national networks. However, the focus today is date rape.
The Oxford Dictionary defines rape as an act of forceable sexual intercourse with a male or female, but especially with a female. Another organization describes rape as a forcible sexual encounter, oral, vaginal, or rectal, with a male or female without their consent. (http ://www.nsvrc.org/statistics).
In other words, rape is a crime punishable by law, an unwelcome nemesis females face every day. I am not suggesting that this heinous act of violence does not plague the male population, but females are more likely to be raped than males.
Side Bar: From Wikipedia
"A feature of date rape is that, in most cases, the victim is female, she knows the perpetrator, and the rape takes place in the context of an actual or potential romantic or sexual relationship between the parties or when that relationship has come to an end. In addition, the perpetrator may use physical or psychological intimidation to force a victim to have sex against their will or when the perpetrator has sex with a victim who is incapable of giving consent, for example, because they have been incapacitated by alcohol or other drugs.
According to the United States Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS), date rapes are among the most common rape cases; they usually most commonly occur among college students when alcohol is involved or date rape drugs are taken. One o the most targeted groups is women between the ages of 16 to 24".
Only a fraction of the rapes that occur get reported, and usually, females make the reports. (http ://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence). The victims must not allow the statute of limitations to expire before filing charges against the perpetrator. A statute of limitations is the maximum amount of time allowed for a party to initiate legal proceedings, whether filing criminal charges or a civil lawsuit (https://legaldictionary.net/statute=of-limitations).
But did you know that most rapes are acquaintance rapes? Research states, "In eight out of ten rapes, the victim knows the rapist?" (https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence). Television presents the rapist as being inside the house waiting for them to arrive, or he/they climbs through a window at night and rapes the victim. They may follow them and wait for the opportunity to pull them into an alley and rape them, or they will stalk them to learn their routine and then pounce. However, this is not what usually happens in real time. The act is much different from what we see on television. Additionally, the real-life effects after rape take longer for some victims to overcome than others. Some don’t ever overcome; they don't ever become rape survivors.
There are many safety precautions to help prevent a person from being raped. But I firmly believe that one must always use common sense. So often, when I am out and about, day or night, I have seen women and teen girls walking and talking on their phones, looking in their shopping bags or purses, trying to locate their keys. I have seen them sitting in their cars with the door half open talking on the phone, pulling items out of the shopping bags, checking them out - or burrowing through their purse looking for whatever.
Including all the above, I believe the most unconscious and dangerous mistake a female makes that puts them at high risk of being raped is on the first date; they invite the person to their room. Even if he insists, DON'T DO IT! You don't know that person; they could be a serial killer or serial rapist. (https://www.wikihow.com/Prevent- ate_rape). Don't put your life at risk for a moment of pleasure. It is not worth the risk. All of the above is a big NO! That is why it's so important to have your transportation or a responsible person you can call if this happens.
Everyone should be mindful of self-care and self-protection when they are out and about. Think about the what if's. What if someone approaches me while I am talking on my phone while walking to my car? What should I do to protect myself? What if I see the same individual multiple times while shopping in the mall or grocery store and looking in my direction? What should I do? What if my date leaves me because I won't comply? How will I get home? What if I drink? Will he take advantage of me? W at will I say if he touches me and it makes me uncomfortable?
Unfortunately, we tend to assume that whatever act of violence could happen will not happen to us; that's when we become prey to potential predators. And unfortunately, unobserving behavior makes it possible for anything that could happen easier to occur. Getting snatched and sold into sex or labor trafficking, taken for ransom, or raped are just a few possible acts of violence that we subject ourselves to when we are not vigilant about our safety.
There is an unflattering myth about females and rape that works my nerves; the victim must have been flirting, maybe leading the person on; they were inebriated or should not have been in the place that put them at risk of getting raped. I have to disagree with that statement. Rape is 'rape, and the only one responsible for the rape is the rapist. It is never the female's fault that someone decided to take from her what he cannot replace.
As stated earlier, being negligent about your safety and unaware of your surroundings plays a significant role in a person finding themselves in the hands of a rapist. When my children started dating, my husband always told our children that nothing good happened after midnight. When the kids got older, he increased the time to 1:00 AM. He cautioned them to remember the values and beliefs we taught them and always be aware of their surroundings.
Understandably, a person cannot live their life in fear. However, females and males should always be observant and prepared to protect themselves and take the necessary steps to help keep them from becoming a number in the rape statistical database. According to the RAINN organization (https://www.rainn.org/ststistics/vivtims-sexual-violence), this seems to be the best way to help stop this horrific sexual invasion of the body,
A plethora of organizations, counselors, psychologists, experts, specialists in the field, and laypersons suggests several precautionary ideas to assist with helping to keep you from being raped. I have my thoughts on safety precautions as well. I will identify them as such (AMC) in the list below.
1. Alway" tell someone where you are going, even if you know your date.
2. Tell someone where you are going and with whom if it's your first date (https://www.wikihow.com/Prevent-Date_rape).
3. Make occasional “safety check-ins " with family or friends."
4. Make sure someone can identify your clothing or any accessories you were wearing; telephone, jewelry, hairstyles, backpack, purse. AMC
5. Do not isolate yourself when out and about. AMC
6. Stay with the crowd.
7. Stay sober.
8. Always have "a designated driver other than your date if you plan on drinking while on a date. AMC
9. Don't leave your drink at the bar or table.
10. Always cover the top of your drink when moving about the room or club.
11. Know something about your date's character before going on a date. AMC
12. Be aware of your date's body and verbal language and when you are with him before and while on a date. AMC
13. Look for signs that he respects you and will keep you safe.
14. Always make sure you have a way home if you feel uncomfortable with your date. (https://www.wikihow.com/Prevent-Date-Rape)
15. If you decide to have a sexual "encounter," make sure "both of you give enthusiastic affirmative consent.
Collet Gee, a co-author of an article in wikiHow to Prevent Date Rape, states that you could meet your date at a well-known restaurant. Don't allow yourself to be in an unfamiliar place ". This will prevent you from not knowing a definite address if you need to summons for help. It is a self-care-self-protection skill.
Be in the crowd. Stay in the mix. Move in and out of the public to ensure that someone sees you and your date. This is a great skill to have if there is a need to identify you are your date. If you are with a group, and this is your first time on -a face-to-face date, make sure they know as much about your date as possible; his name, articles of clothing, specific scars or unique accessories, what kind of vehicle he was driving, and your plans after leaving.
As stated earlier, we can't live our lives in constant fear. Therefore, we (females) must learn to love ourselves before we can love others. Love is"an action word. So, if the rapist decides to take from you what he can't give back to you, he doesn't have self-love. So his action is vile and without consciousness. Therefore, we have to put into practice, especially females, how we will and should respond to a threat to your person; learn how to use whatever is necessary to protect ourselves from the hands of a predator living in our towns, next door, in the school, churches, and homeless shelters, you name the place one or two are possibly residing there, or they visit the area looking for prey.
God forbid you to become a victim.it'sIf this happens to you, your mindset will be Escape, Survive, Escape, Survive.
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